8

How an Airport Trip Teaches You to Treat Spammers Differently

 

The TSA agent repeated the same request in sing song fashion.

Kelli and I had no idea how to go about the process.

He continued singing the request from a condescending, impatient space.

In a pleasant but firm way I finally smiled and said: “Ya know, this is our first time doing this. We don’t do this every day like you.”

He dialed it down a notch.

I could see both sides of the situation.

I worked as a pier guard in a shipping terminal for 4 years. Sure I recall doing similar rote tasks hundreds of times daily. Sometimes newbie truckers felt lost. I had patience with these individuals. Sometimes experienced truckers felt lost in the process even though they had experience. You betcha I had patience with them.

I had to get clear with the TSA guy because even now, as a professional blogger far removed from my security guard days, I am able to do a full 180 from his impatient ‘tude when dealing with spammers.

The Airport Lesson

Guys, I know spammers annoy you sometimes. Desperate or seemingly clueless bloggers reaching out to you may drive you mad in moments.

You are human. You are entitled to blow off steam once in a while.

But remember the firm, polite and clear line I spoke to the impatient, rude TSA agent.

He may do this everyday but me and my wife were new to the process.

You may get the same lame pitches daily but these spammers are many times new to the process of building a blog. Some spammers are completely ignorant of successful blogging strategies, like the powerful advice offered by my friend Cori Ramos here.

Have Compassion

Do your best to have compassion for these folks because they know not what they do.

No need to be the blogging version of the Dalai Lama. But you can nudge a spammer in the right direction with helpful links goading them to build blogging relationships properly.

If a stranger asks to guest post on Blogging From Paradise I thank them for reaching out to me and send this link:

How to Get Featured on Blogging From Paradise

Think education, not humiliation.

These folks have no idea that they are annoying you in most cases. The majority have no idea what the blogging world looks like through your set of glasses.

When I began blogging a decade ago I got pissed when established bloggers emailed me 1 or 2 word answers sometimes. Little did I know how connecting with hundreds of folks daily influences you to be short and clear versus the long-winded emails that failing blogger me sent during those lean days.

I gradually saw blogging from a pro blogger’s perspective as my presence expanded.

Now I respond in 1-3 sentences most of the time because anything more would be ineffiicent and ineffective.

Practical Tips

  • Take a deep breath when dealing with spammers; ground yourself in the process
  • Understand that ignorance and downright green-ness often influences bloggers to spam
  • Even though you deal with spammers regularly the spamming bloggers may be relatively new to the online world
  • Send some spammers links for how to effectively network with and befriend successful bloggers
  • Educate; don’t humiliate

Be patient guys.

The spammer you want to eviscerate may just become your most loyal reader when you educate them. Learning how to network effectively may goad them to comment genuinely on your blog, to buy your products, to endorse you or to hire you.

You never know how helping a struggling blogger may turn out over the long haul.

A friend of mine who sent out spammy messages almost a decade ago had no idea he was spamming. He was not up on blogging etiquette.

He turned things around and now has a wildly successful YouTube channel in addition to being featured on major media outlets.

Be compassionate. Your act of kindness can make a dramatic difference.

Your Turn

How do you handle spammers?

Do you try to be compassionate with these folks?

Blogging eBook

If you want to network effectively buy my eBook:

13 Tips to Become an Unstoppable Networking Machine

Ryan Biddulph
 

Ryan Biddulph is a blogger, author and world traveler who's been featured on Richard Branson's Virgin Blog, Forbes, Entrepreneur, Fox News, The Huffington Post and Neil Patel Dot Com. He has written and published 126 bite-sized eBooks on Amazon. He can help you retire to a life of island hopping through smart blogging at Blogging From Paradise.

Click Here to Leave a Comment Below 8 comments
Mark Newsome - January 31, 2018

Bravo Ryan!

Thanks for sharing at least seven incredibly valuable
lessons in life in general and successful blogging in
particular bud!

You definitely over delivered in your title/headline!

I was so intrigued, I just had to read it, in order
to get your full take, which I already knew going in, was definitely
gonna be an eye opener!

And boy was it ever! Both you and Enstine, have the
third eye, to just see beyond the horizon!LOL!

And then being able to articulate it, so the rest of us can see
and appreciate it too! Great stuff (as usual!) bud!

Just like Cori mentioned, this one has definitely got to
be shared!!

Reply
Asad - January 31, 2018

Well said. I appreciate your feelings. Actually, it is right new bloggers want to be famous in no days. No doubt they may also hard work for guest blogging but they do not know the right way. So, as you discussed above we must not humiliate them and degrade them. Instead we should give them moral support and show them a good path leading them to success. Thanks

Reply
Jub Bryant - January 31, 2018

The timing of this post is incredible Ryan. I checked into a hostel this avo…the girl was nice and efficient. Then her colleague has been on my case ever since trying to sell me dinner, a scooter, taxi…all sorts. I have denied him but he hasn’t stopped. Tomorrow will make an effort to explain how annoying it is for me, but no doubt most tourists coming through the hostel (it has been mentioned on booking reviews previously).

Cheers, Jub

Reply
Cori Ramos - January 31, 2018

Hi Ryan,

This is great advice to follow for dealing with spammers.

You know it never occurred to me that spammers may be new to the online world – therefore they know not what they do. 🙂

And when you followed up with emailing them links and educating them – man, he or she may end up asking for coaching and a potential client is born!

That’s was a real eye opener for me because I get tons of spam email.

I do email them back but I close it with “best of luck” or something like that to drop the hint that I’m not going to engage in any email chat.

There was this one guy who wouldn’t give up. In the end he said “I won’t even charge you for the content”…I was like, really? 🙂

Awesome advice as always Ryan and thanks so much for the mention!

You know I’m passing this one along!

Cori

Reply
    Ryan Biddulph - February 4, 2018

    Yes Cori; some folks are beyond helping LOL. But even then they slowly learn deep down that if they are rejecting a kind person’s help, they are doing something silly and destructive to their business.

    Reply

Leave a Reply: