1 Secret of Highly Connected Bloggers

Highly connected bloggers have a little secret.

This secret is powerful.

Non-connected bloggers have no idea about this secret.

My email inbox confirms this.

Every day I get a steady flow of emails from strangers asking me to do stuff for them. Publish their guest post. Feature them. Place a sponsored post on Blogging From Paradise but forget about my set price; work according to their cheap budget. $25 for a sponsored post? Delusion.

All of these bloggers haven’t uncovered the secret of highly connected bloggers:

Being highly connected happens when you promote other bloggers all day long.

My Story

These days I’m a connected blogger.

But back in the day I blogged in a cyber cave.

I was a nobody from nowhere because I promoted myself all day long.

Not a good look.

Nobody likes someone who talks about themselves all day long. How can they listen to you and your problems if they focus only on their agenda?

I eventually learned; 1,000 is better than 1. If I just promoted myself, I’d rely on 1 person to succeed and spread my word. But if I made 1,000 blogging friends by promoting rocking bloggers without asking for anything in return, friendships would flourish and I’d become connected to a loyal tribe.

1,000 is better than 1.

Or, 5 is better than 1. In the beginning you will make 5 blogging buddies by promoting other bloggers on:

  • Twitter
  • Facebook
  • Google Plus
  • LinkedIn
  • Your blog

5 becomes 10. 10 becomes 50. 50 becomes 100 and you slowly but surely become connected.

Becoming Connected Takes Generous Plus Time

What do you most want for your blog?

Help other bloggers achieve that same goal.

Don’t ask for a darn thing in return either; detachment is highly prospering and quite an attractive trait in a friend.

Spend days, weeks, months, then years helping folks without asking anything of them. Be interested in the person and how you serve them; focus not on what they can do for you.

These are the dues every super connected blogger pays to become connected, successful and influential.

If becoming connected was a quick process, every blogger would be a millionaire. But becoming genuinely connected takes months to years so most bloggers fail horribly when they quit on networking and focus instead on only taking care of themselves.

Be generous.

Have fun helping people.

This is how to make friends with top bloggers.

This is also how to influence these top bloggers without trying to influence them.

Why Is it a Secret?

Most bloggers blog from an energy of fear, focusing only on themselves and how they can serve themselves.

They want to network only to help themselves, having little interest in helping others.

This is why few bloggers succeed. How can you become a connected blogger if you focus only on yourself?


But the idea of promoting others seems secretive because most bloggers are ignorant of this concept.

Write some posts. Promote posts on social media. Watch the traffic and money flow in, they say.

No way.

You become a successful blogger by becoming a connected blogger.

You become a connected blogger by serving folks without looking for anything in return.

You serve folks without looking for anything in return by generously promoting bloggers for weeks and months.

Get connected.

Pay your blogging tuition.

Pay your dues.

Put in the time all connected people put into growing large, loyal tribes, one genuine, heartfelt connection at a time.

1,000 is better than 1.

A Few Friends to Connect with

Get to know a few of my buddies.

Read their blogs. Promote them. Help them out.

Build your friend network.

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25 thoughts on “1 Secret of Highly Connected Bloggers”

  1. Hi Ryan,
    Thanks you for this powerful eye-opening and somewhat contrarian post.

    In our world people love to concentrate on themselves. We’ve even coined the word ‘selfie’ that has sneaked into the dictionary 🙂

    But it is when we become generous and focus on others that good things happen to us. Thank you once again.

  2. Hi Ryan,
    Thanks for sharing your secrets with us. You are really a nice and loving Blogger. Your Post has also inspired me to become a good blogger by connecting with many people by getting solutions to their problems.
    Just keep going you are really doing a great Job.

  3. Hi Ryan,

    You’re indeed a connected blogger. Your impact in the world of blogging spreads across the globe. It’s a highly commendable thing.

    Hopefully, one day I will become connected like you. Hehehe…

    Thanks Enstine for having Ryan here.


  4. Hi,
    Great roundup post indeed.Communication is the powerful one to all category.Share to others and ask advice it’s a good way to success.thanks for sharing this informative post

  5. Normally we expecting long lists but you explained all in ONE point. Blogging is always to help each other and get connected. Good post ryan. Book marking the site now and will visit regularly. Keep doing the good work.

  6. Hello Ryan Biddulph,

    Thanks for this post that share some amazing & useful Secret of Bloggers. Blogging isn’t easy as some people think, This post is really helpful to understand the secretes of Blogging experts.

  7. Hi Ryan,

    As always, a great post my friend!

    Thanks for sharing your story with us. I think all of us start of promoting ourselves until we learn the proper way of doing things. It took me a while to get it myself.

    But you are so right, 1,000 is way better than one. That’s what I love about the blogging community. They put others before themselves.

    For those bloggers who still won’t connect with other bloggers are truly missing out. To be able to connect with other bloggers who can relate to you, exchange ideas, and promote each other – I’m so proud to be a part of it!

    Thanks for sharing this Ryan!


  8. Hey Ryan,

    You have really revealed the top secret behind the highly authorized bloggers how they are much active and making their presence. “Nobody likes someone who talks about themselves all day long”. You are exactly right. People should concern about others and do spare time for others. So that, we can get connected and subsequently, friends will help us to grow. Nice strategy. Hope this will give hands to the newbies to establish. Thanks for sharing the secret.

  9. Don’t tell them the real secret Ryan!!! haha

    But for real, this is it.

    You have to be an active blogger – a connected blogger. That’s how you grow your network and expand your brand.

    It’s all about helping, sharing, and becoming a good member of this blogging community. It is a community. An online community where we all can benefit from the value and help we bring to the space.

    thanks for sharing this dude!

    Best regards! 😀

  10. Thanks, Ryan!

    I’m a fan of friendship!

    Even a simple comment, a link to another blogger can make him/her happy. So why not help a talented blogger?

    P.S. I am also in this secret community of highly connected bloggers 🙂

  11. Hi Ryan and Enstine,thank you for the mention. It’s awesome when you can connect with other bloggers either to help them or to ask advice.
    I’m not one to beg for anything and rarely ask anyone to share things etc., although sometimes I think I should but it’s just not my style.
    It amazes me when I receive emails from strangers look I g for shares, posts etc.
    If they came by the blog to leave a comment I would get go know them. Or if they engaged with me on social media.
    Thanks again Ryan and I have to check out your other 2 friends. Have a great day!

  12. I must say this is classy. To be candid, you’ve unveil the secret of success in blogging. Blogging is a community,as we all know and its meant to be intertwine.

    Doing lots of mentions, guest posting, linking ref,acknowledging, sharing and posting.

    I remember some few years back when I learn the words “sharing is caring” from Mr Joseph…We all have to make this our motto of movement . It’s not shouldn’t be only us.we should also consider other.

    Guess have built some network of friends as well..

    Ryan, Lisa and Muki as well, because i’ve been following him for the past 7 years. He is such an honourable man.

    The bottom line is; we should always reach out,help build one another, which is what can affirm the main stand of blogging.

    Thanks Ryan for this sweet article.

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