My latest post was published on Positively Positive today.
You can read it here:
How to Gracefully Handle Rejection
Many bloggers believe I am lucky, gifted or talented, the recipient of good fortune. But what if I told you my first blogging course – see the image below – registered 8,000 page views before someone bought it? 8,000 rejections.
What if I told you my first eBook – before I created Blogging From Paradise – sold 4 copies in 4 months? Talk about rejections. I promoted the eBook tirelessly.
I almost appeared on the National Geographic channel to talk about one of my crazy travel stories, but again, at the last minute, I got rejected once again.
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Many years ago I took these rejections personally. Sometimes I reacted in anger. I cursed people who turned me down; what a mistake they were making! I eventually learned how my fear-filled reaction to not getting what I wanted was the only reason I even contemplated the concept of rejection.
Everything in life is an opportunity. We live in abundance. Turns out, I was never rejected once. I just had to let go opportunities to make room for more prospering opportunities.
I never would have made this realization unless I stopped reacting to blogging rejection and began responding to opportunities. Unfortunately, most bloggers blog from such a fear-filled, poverty conscious energy that they:
- react with anger to a potential client who does not hire them
- feel bitter about readers who do not buy their products
- bemoan all opportunities seemingly lost
If you genuinely own your snap reaction to rejection, you can face, feel and release rejection-related fears. Clearing those fears helps you blog from a fun, loving, abundant, rejection-free energy.
My blogging course is excellent. Who cares if 8,000 page views elapsed before someone bought the course. I was not really rejected 8,000 times. I just had to patiently and persistently get clear on allowing in the prosper customers.
Every moment is an opportunity to get clearer on your intent, to be more generous and to serve more people.
Observe David Boozer. He has persistently helped his community to prosper online. He is so focused on creating and connecting and he has so generously promoted me that I literally can name 15 members of his tribe who became readers of my blog. I guarantee you that David doesn’t even consider the concept of rejection or loss; he’s just focused on being a world class teacher who serves his community.
When you are so busy helping people that you only see gain, not loss, you cannot possibly be rejected. Focusing on service also helps you detach largely from outcomes so you need not get caught up in your link click to buy rations, potential clients not choosing you or any other seeming rejection that deflates most bloggers.
I am rejection-free because I am too busy loving and serving people.
10 minutes ago I noted once again how Enstine promoted me generously via Twitter. I knew I had to write another guest post for his community; automatic impulse. Who cares if I have to wake at 3 AM to catch 3 flights from Turkey to Thailand, in a few hours? I deeply appreciate his generosity and am happy to write and share this guest post with love.
Being surrounded by so many kind friends and being so grateful to render such blogging service, how could I even contemplate the idea of someone ever rejecting me?
Get so busy helping and making friends that you could never feel rejected. Stop focusing on the 100 people who did not buy your eBook today. Begin focusing on helping 100 people today through retweeting them and asking how you can help them.
Blogging rejection is an impossibility in an abundant world.
Stop focusing on what you didn’t get.
Concentrate on what you can give.